Life is full of challenges and unexpected setbacks. How we navigate through the setbacks we encounter determine how we become going forward. No impediment can keep you down unless you let it. You can turn your setback into a comeback if you put on the right attitudes to life.
While preparing this post, I heard the news of Tiger Woods’ great comeback. He won the Masters after eleven troubling years of a series of emotional, physical and probably financial setbacks. He didn’t let his setback keep him back. Today he is the rave of the moment. The lost glory is coming back, so much so that President Trump will be awarding him one of the highest honours in the USA, the Presidential Medal of Freedom!
Your own ‘medal of freedom’ is a few decisions and actions away, if only you would take the right steps and not give up. The parable of the shrewd manager teaches us some great attitudes and approaches to deploy in a state of setback that can help us turn setbacks into great comebacks.
1Jesus also said to His disciples, “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. 2So he called him in to ask, ‘What is this I hear about you? Turn in an account of your management, for you cannot be manager any longer.’ 3The manager said to himself, ‘What shall I do, now that my master is taking away my position? I am too weak to dig and too ashamed to beg. 4I know what I will do, so that after my removal from management, people will welcome me into their homes…’ 5And he called in each one of his master’s debtors. ‘How much do you owe my master?’ he asked the first. 6‘A hundred measures of olive oil,’ he answered. ‘Take your bill,’ said the manager. ‘Sit down quickly, and write fifty.’ 7Then he asked another, ‘And how much do you owe?’ ‘A hundred measures of wheat,’ he replied. ‘Take your bill and write eighty,’ he told him. 8The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the sons of this age are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the sons of light. 9I tell you, use worldly wealth to make friends for yourselves so that when it is gone, they will welcome you into eternal dwellings – Luke 16: 1-9 (NIV)
Here are four things the manager did, and you can do to move trigger amazing comebacks.
#1 Do not question your challenges.
When you are challenged the question to ask is not, “Why me?” “How did I get here? Why is this happening to me?” Rather the question should be, “How do I come out of this? What do I do now?” He said to himself, “What shall I do now?” He did not blame himself or whine over the mistakes he had made; in the alternative, he thought of what to do to overcome the setback. Stop blaming yourself or others for your setbacks and start thinking of how to step back up.
#2 Carry out a thoughtful self-appraisal.
He identified his strengths and weaknesses and concentrated on his strengths. He did not emphasise or sit around his shortcomings. Note that the Master did not condemn him for not going to dig (his weakness); instead, He commended him for his ingenuity. God will never condemn you for not doing something that He has not given the strength and ability to do; He expects you to do what He has given you the ability to do. Do not be unhappy or envious that you cannot do what others can do. Identify your strengths and build on them.
#3 Think about the solutions, not the problems.
The difference between meditation and worry is the centre of focus. While worry focuses on the problem, meditation is solution-based. Until you think about the solution, you may never get it. Until you think solutions you will continue to walk around in problems. He only came to the “I know what I will do” point after he took the time to ask, “What shall I do now?” To move from the setback to the comeback, you must centre squarely on the solution.
#4 Take the necessary steps.
The manager did not stop at his decisions; he applied action. We lose traction when we fail to apply actions to our resolutions.
These simple approaches to your setbacks could be your highway from setback to comeback.
You may also want to read how to move from setbacks to glorious comebacks 1.